About Me
I know what its like to be you but I know it can be hard to be in that place right now.
Even after the outward signs of success — a good career, daily meditation practice, and regular journaling — my relationships continued to end in disaster. I'd done the work. I'd been to couples therapy. I’d learned about communication, emotional awareness, and the importance of expressing needs.
Then I met someone amazing. The link between us was extraordinary...until it wasn't.
Our relationship was long-distance, which seemed to create the perfect storm. Anxiety and avoidance patterns started to show themselves during those separated weeks. We were on the phone for hours trying to get back together while playing a tug of war with the attachment process — only in her terms, she would pull away and in mine, I’d become anxious but hold that anxiety at bay until the next time we met.
That painful cycle was my epiphany to finally take attachment theory seriously.
My Approach
What is unique about my coaching is that I have experienced these patterns myself. I understand how:
You can enter into relationships with the best of intentions and end up feeling stuck.
Past relationship behavior triggers as patterns not isolated events.
Even folks who “do everything right,” can battle secure attachment.
By combining attachment theory with mindfulness practices, I learned to identify my thoughts and feelings as they subsisted, as well as to communicate them truthfully. This changed not only my relationships but my whole life.
How I Help
I help individuals and couples to:
Recognize their specific attachment behaviors and cues
Learn to respond to your own needs with kindness and understanding
Replace inner judgment with curiosity and compassion
Building trust through practical communication skills
Shift criticism and defensiveness into connection
Build connections where both partners feel safe and appreciated
Whether you suffer from anxious attachment, avoidant behavior, or the murky waters of the fearful-avoidant cycle, my guidance is tailored to your experience.
Over my seven years of coaching, I have learned that the same patterns repeat over and over again in people's relationships. Even when one partner often invests tremendous amounts of energy and does not get what they need in return. Attachment theory and a healthy relationship with oneself helps us understand these dynamics — and the key to breaking them is understanding them. Your Path Forward
If you’re ready to shift old patterns and want to work together — or just have questions — reach out today 👋
Begin Your Path Toward Secure Attachment
Download my free guide “Breaking Free from Insecure Attachment” and receive weekly tips on how to develop a secure and fulfilling relationships straight to your inbox.
GET YOUR FREE GUIDE
Testimonials
Dylan's coaching was refreshing, insightful, and uplifting. I received very useful guidance from Dylan who has a keen ability to listen deeply, and facilitate the process of inner discovery. I was super impressed with his wisdom, gentleness and kindness in working with me through some challenging emotions that were tied up in past beliefs and emotional processes. I am a therapist who has done lots of personal therapy work on myself and I found the coaching to be similarly healing. Also, the coaching felt somewhat joyful in that it was a collaborative and creative process. Dylan is very, very good at going to the heart of matters. I recommend him highly as a spiritual life coach and I plan to return to him for more coaching myself. He is a great resource!
NANCY O
As a person confronting multiple stressors (divorce, upheavals at my co-owned business, troubles with my teenager, pandemic, etc.), I have found Dylan's support to be skilled, compassionate, clear-eyed, and refreshingly authentic. Dylan has helped me clarify and stick to my boundaries in a big way, as well as develop and refine practical plans for unraveling various knotty issues. In the past when I have sought help for various problems, too often I would encounter "help" that was less than helpful, especially in the form of being overly directive, paternalistic, authoritarian, or judgmental. Dylan, on the other hand, is truly collaborative— I find his relational demeanor offers me profound empowerment. I so much appreciate his insights, consistency, realness, and capacity for deep listening, and feel increased confidence in my own ability to maintain resilience and set and reach goals. If you are looking for a coach who will genuinely show up for you, I recommend Dylan.
JENNIFER L
Dylan's coaching was refreshing, insightful, and uplifting. I received very useful guidance from Dylan who has a keen ability to listen deeply, and facilitate the process of inner discovery. I was super impressed with his wisdom, gentleness and kindness in working with me through some challenging emotions that were tied up in past beliefs and emotional processes. I am a therapist who has done lots of personal therapy work on myself and I found the coaching to be similarly healing. Also, the coaching felt somewhat joyful in that it was a collaborative and creative process. Dylan is very, very good at going to the heart of matters. I recommend him highly as a spiritual life coach and I plan to return to him for more coaching myself. He is a great resource!
FURQUAN
“...He is also kind and quite funny if you connect with his sense of humor, which makes it easier to be honest and vulnerable when talking about sensitive issues.”
Dylan is an amazing coach! He helped me at probably one of my most vulnerable points.He’s a good coach because he didn’t just study. He’s been through his own personal development journey in attachment and that’s what makes him such a good coach! He allowed me to rewire my brain to identify what was healthy and not.He allowed me to understand how to co parent with my ex, childs father who is strongly avoidant, he helped me identify and understand my attachment more, he has been the most patient person and also understanding, honestly couldn’t recommend him enough, it’s a percentage of me doing the work but the remainder having a good coach to break through in a secure place!
MI ADIE
I’ve been working with Dylan now for the last 8 months. Before we started chatting I was going through a lot; struggling expressing my needs and setting boundaries. After we started chatting, we worked together on getting past some trauma and setting boundaries so it doesn’t happen again. I’m in a much better place after working with him and have now recommended Dylan to a few friends of mine.
ERIK N
I have an anxious attachment and my partner is avoidant, so we all know what that means. We are a couple since more then 20 years. We started the coaching with dylan in spring 2023, shortly before ending our relationship. We had such hard conflicts, which really stressed us so much. Because of the coaching my partner could open up a little bit more and reflect about his behavoir and his needs. In fact we had less conflicts and longer periods without stress and fights. We had ups and downs for sure but dylan really helped us to regognize the important points, the needs of ourself and the other person and how important it is to hold sapce for the emotions of the partner.
BERTA
Begin Your Path Toward Secure Attachment
Download my free guide “Breaking Free from Insecure Attachment” and receive weekly tips on how to develop a secure and fulfilling relationships straight to your inbox.
GET YOUR FREE GUIDE