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dylan smeder

Attachment Coach

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Rejection & Isolation is Painful

I work with people who are ready to go through THEIR PAIN into a place of power. We work together to find it, reframe it, and address it.

“Dylan is very, very good at going to the heart of matters. I recommend him highly as a spiritual life coach.”


—Nancy, Therapist

“...He is also kind and quite funny if you connect with his sense of humor, which makes it easier to be honest and vulnerable when talking about sensitive issues.”


—SAMANTHA FISCH, ADMIN AsSISTANT

About my approach

If you are struggling in your current relationship, tormenting yourself about a previous relationship, or struggling to find the confidence to find a new relationship then you are in a lot of pain.

It is really easy to fall into the trap of blame and shame. However, shame makes it harder to see what you can change to develop more personal power and respect. Blame simply makes it easy to give up.

I will help you:

  • Recognize your personal value and increase your confidence (if you don’t feel you deserve a great relationship it’s hard to have one).
  • Identify where you can improve your communication.
  • Identify where you can take more ownership.
  • Identify where you can set boundaries so that you are not putting in more energy than you are getting out.
  • Identify what you are holding onto from past relationships or childhood that is affecting your perceptions.

If your sense of connection is based on insecure relationships you will be left dependent. You have the power inside you that  wants to be realized. I help you identify your true self so that you can firmly plant your feet on the ground and go forward with confidence and personal power.

The work is simple. I help you see patterns. And by seeing the patterns and understanding where to set boundaries you can decide to make a change instead of letting the pattern control you.

I will show up for you, and together we will get better results than you probably think is possible.

Telescope Peak, California

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What questions do you have?

Whether this your first time working with a coach or if you have extensive experience it can feel scary to book a call. Let me know what questions you have.

My number one goal is to provide a place for you to feel safe to ask questions and be heard. I want to help you on your journey even if that means coaching from me is not the right path for you.

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Book

Free compatibility call

The first session is meant for us to get to know each other better and for you to get a feeling for my style and see if we are compatible.

We work together to define your goals and find your blocks

Depending on your needs we can start off very practical or focus on emotions.

Compatibility Call

  • Bring a notepad and paper
  • 35 minutes on anything you want to work on.
  • There will be time at the end for any question that you may have.

Sessions

Commitment

I'm not looking for a set of time but a commitment to really work one's self improvement.

With that commitment comes the ability to create solid lasting change.

How long does it take?

Some clients need 10 sessions for huge breakthroughs

The majority of my clients see a lot of progress around 3 months (12 sessions) and choose to keep going.

  • 1-3 months we focus on the surface dipping into deeper alignment.
  • 3-6 month the we go deeper.
  • 7-11 months we work on integration

Are you ready for change?

dylan smeder

Life & Relationship Coach

© 2020 Fire & Spice, Dylan Smeder